Eulogies

In the month of November, we celebrate the solemnities of All Saints and All souls, remembering our dead. Eulogies are one way we remember and honor the deceased. While optional, the eulogy offers the family the opportunity to share something about their departed loved one. The word eulogy comes from the Greek word eulogia, meaning praise. The eulogy is a way to praise God for the life of the departed.

 At a Catholic Funeral, the eulogy usually takes place at the end of the liturgy. The Order of Christian Funerals says, “A member or a friend of the family may speak in remembrance of the deceased before the final commendation begins.” As this text implies, a eulogy is typically done by one person. If multiple persons wish to speak, they can be given that opportunity either at a vigil or perhaps at a reception following the liturgy.

It is helpful to write and practice a eulogy prior to the liturgy. Delivering the eulogy to another family member or a friend beforehand can help ease nerves during the funeral, even when overcome with emotion.

A common belief is that the eulogy should focus on the departed, but at a Catholic funeral, the content of a eulogy should focus on how God was active in the life of the deceased. How was God present in his/her life? In what ways was the Holy Spirit evident? How did he/she resemble Christ? How did his/her faith inspire others? Telling stories that illustrate answers to these types of questions not only witness  the faith of the departed but also evangelize  the gathered community. This kind of eulogy renews the faith of those present, brings comfort and consolation to those who grieve, and affirms our unity in Christ. Eulogies that carefully consider the spiritual life of the individual add beauty and dignity to a Catholic funeral.