Praying for Our Dead
In the film Coco, 12-year old Miguel Rivera’s dream of becoming a musician transports him to the land of the dead. The concept for the movie is based on the Mexican holiday known as the Day of the Dead or Día de los Muertos.
In the film Coco, 12-year old Miguel Rivera’s dream of becoming a musician transports him to the land of the dead. The concept for the movie is based on the Mexican holiday known as the Day of the Dead or Día de los Muertos. The movie offers a powerful testimony to the practice of remembering our dead.
One of the ways we as Catholics remember our dead is to pray for them. The Bible offers several accounts of prayer for the dead, the earliest of which is seen in the second book of Maccabees. Other early evidence of the Christian practice of praying for the dead can be found in the Roman catacombs, where inscriptions include both prayers for the dead and requests for prayers. Early Church Fathers, such as Tertullian and Augustine also witness to the tradition of praying for departed family and friends.
Prayers for the dead begin as soon as the person dies. Among its various rites, The Order of Christian Funerals includes “Prayers after Death” and “Gathering in the Presence of the Body.” Both of these rites are designed to bring comfort to the mourners at the time of death or shortly thereafter.
As the Order of Christian Funerals states,
“At the death of a Christian, whose life of faith was begun in the waters of baptism and strengthened at the Eucharistic table, the Church intercedes on behalf of the deceased because of its confident belief that death is not the end nor does it break the bonds forged in life.” 4
The funeral liturgy, especially the celebration of the Mass, is the primary way the community offers prayers for their dead:
“At the funeral rites, especially at the celebration of the Eucharistic sacrifice, the Christian community affirms and expresses the union of the Church on earth with the Church in heaven in the one great communion of saints.” 6
After the funeral liturgy, the community continues to remember and pray for the dead at “Masses for the Dead,” on special anniversaries and occasions, on Solemnities such as All Saints and All Souls’ Day, and during the Eucharistic Prayer:
“Remember also, Lord, your servants N. and N., who have gone before us with the sign of faith and rest in the sleep of peace.” Eucharistic Prayer I
“Remember also our brothers and sisters who have fallen asleep in the hope
of the resurrection, and all who have died in your mercy: welcome them into the light of your face.” Eucharistic Prayer II
“To our departed brothers and sisters and to all who were pleasing to you
at their passing from this life, give kind admittance to your kingdom.”
Eucharistic Prayer III
“Remember also those who have died in the peace of your Christ and all the dead, whose faith you alone have known.” Eucharistic Prayer IV
We offer our prayers for the dead to commend them to God’s merciful love, to ease their transition from this life to the next, and to keep them close at heart, as the Order of Christian Funerals sates,
“Though separated from the living, the dead are still at one with the community of believers on earth and benefit from their prayers and intercession.” 6
Eulogies
In the month of November, we celebrate the solemnities of All Saints and All souls, remembering our dead. Eulogies are one way we remember and honor the deceased. While optional, the eulogy offers the family the opportunity to share something about their departed loved one.
In the month of November, we celebrate the solemnities of All Saints and All souls, remembering our dead. Eulogies are one way we remember and honor the deceased. While optional, the eulogy offers the family the opportunity to share something about their departed loved one. The word eulogy comes from the Greek word eulogia, meaning praise. The eulogy is a way to praise God for the life of the departed.
At a Catholic Funeral, the eulogy usually takes place at the end of the liturgy. The Order of Christian Funerals says, “A member or a friend of the family may speak in remembrance of the deceased before the final commendation begins.” As this text implies, a eulogy is typically done by one person. If multiple persons wish to speak, they can be given that opportunity either at a vigil or perhaps at a reception following the liturgy.
It is helpful to write and practice a eulogy prior to the liturgy. Delivering the eulogy to another family member or a friend beforehand can help ease nerves during the funeral, even when overcome with emotion.
A common belief is that the eulogy should focus on the departed, but at a Catholic funeral, the content of a eulogy should focus on how God was active in the life of the deceased. How was God present in his/her life? In what ways was the Holy Spirit evident? How did he/she resemble Christ? How did his/her faith inspire others? Telling stories that illustrate answers to these types of questions not only witness the faith of the departed but also evangelize the gathered community. This kind of eulogy renews the faith of those present, brings comfort and consolation to those who grieve, and affirms our unity in Christ. Eulogies that carefully consider the spiritual life of the individual add beauty and dignity to a Catholic funeral.
Funeral Planning
November is the month when we the Church remember and honor our dead. One of the Church’s Corporal Works of Mercy is to bury the dead. At some point in our lives, we will be involved in planning a funeral liturgy either for a loved one or perhaps for ourselves. The Funeral Rites offer ritual prayers that encourage the Body of Christ to be present and to accompany the dead as they transition from this world. There are rites for use After Death, in the Presence of the Body, during the Transfer of the Body to the Church, the funeral Vigil, Morning and Evening Prayer for the Dead, the Funeral Liturgy, and the Rite of Committal. These rites are also designed to comfort the family and friends from the time of the death of their loved one to the burial. The familiar rituals of the liturgies help to create order at a time when life is in disorder.